Wondering how to nurture your relationship? First and foremost: be nice to each other! Yes, on the one hand this advice seems obvious, on the other hand many couples forget it. Over time, many people, when hearing such a tip, respond: “I can’t do that” or “why should I be nice?”. Check out how to improve your relationship with your partner!
Take a deep breath
If you and your partner are like most couples, you sometimes disagree. By arguing, you hurt each other’s feelings. This is completely normal. On the other hand, frequent arguing can lead to resentment and hostility. Show your partner that he or she is indeed important to you. Before you explode, take a deep breath in through your nose (count to 5) and then let the air out through your mouth for 5 seconds. Listen calmly to your partner’s arguments and try to respond to them. This way you can consciously avoid conflict and show that you care.
Kiss your partner often
Kiss your loved one in the morning after waking up to start the day right. Kiss and hug in the evening to fall asleep peacefully. Hug your partner every time you haven’t seen each other in a long time. Kissing doesn’t always have to be a prelude to sex, but it does strengthen the feelings between you.
Do something unexpected
Most people love surprises, especially when they make their lives easier, if only for a minute. Taking the stress out of household chores can be nice if your other half is having a bad day. Don’t wait for your partner to ask you to do it yourself. It’s a wonderful expression of caring, even if it seems simple or obvious.
Sharing is an expression of caring
Sounds cliché? It probably is, but it’s true. It’s so much easier to eat the last cookie or drink a mug of hot chocolate by yourself. On the other hand, by giving your beloved the last cookie or asking him what he needs, you show that you care about him. Don’t underestimate simple gestures.
Learn the art of compromise
You may not always get what you want. Talk about your needs with your partner and work out a compromise. Find out what is really important to you and what is not necessarily. Try to accept that your loved one may approach things differently.
Fear of intimacy
The reason many couples move away from each other is because they stop treating each other with the respect, passion, affection and care that make up what we call romantic love. Many people have an unconscious fear of intimacy, so they keep their other half at a distance. These defense mechanisms may give us a sense of security and self-protection, but they actually limit us
How to deal with jealousy?
Have you noticed that you are very jealous of your partner? Think about where this morbid jealousy comes from. Is your partner really giving you reasons, or are you distorting reality? Perhaps you are listening to your inner critic who whispers: “he is cheating on you”, “who would even want to be with you?”. Of course, if your partner is treating you poorly, you should definitely address this. However, consider whether you are responding appropriately to the situation
Pay attention to your partner’s needs and feelings
Many people adopt a “me, me, me” attitude without even realizing it. They then stop thinking about their other half. They often feel victimized and unwilling to see things from their partner’s point of view. Take some time to try to understand what your loved one is feeling and thinking. Show him kindness, ask about his wants and needs.
When the opportunity arises, praise your partner. By doing so, you will build healthy self-esteem. Think about what you can appreciate your loved one for. Instead of focusing on the flaws, highlight the positive qualities. In this way, you will show your partner that you love and appreciate him or her.
Gain a new perspective
Sometimes it’s helpful to look at your relationship from a new perspective. Talk to someone who is not directly involved in the relationship, such as a friend or family member. This way, you’ll look at the situation in a different way and deal with the pressure more easily. By the way, don’t be afraid to spend some time apart
Photo by Cody Black/Unsplash